Last night we went and picked up my mom, and she’s home. :)
She’s so much better, you guys! She woke up early this morning and started laundry and arranged for her friend to take her to get a haircut and worked on her syllabi for her classes starting Monday. I know that doesn’t sound like much, but before her diagnosis she slept much of the day and was physically unable to do things like carry laundry (I’m trying not to freak out about her doing it while we were still in bed, OMG).
There’s still much to do; she meets with the surgeon this week and we have to schedule the surgery as soon as possible. She has to drink water nonstop to keep her calcium from rising (sadly, there is no medication that would help). But she’s doing it, and she’s in great spirits.
It’s such a joy.
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I spoke about this week being an emotional roller coaster, but I didn’t really fully explain why. I’ve mentioned several times in passing about the site that has targeted me and my life, and I’ve dealt with a huge amount of negativity directed toward me and my family daily. It’s sucked, but I’ve dealt with it.
Recently, though, this same site and its readers have targeted my clients. Which is ironic, since they hate me for having been broke, but they are actively trying to make me lose work.
I wrote about it, finally, over at Babble (mostly because I did not want to link to them from here). If you’d like to know what’s been going on, I’d love you to read it.
Thanks.
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I read it. The short version… They suck you don’t. Ignore them. I won’t bother giving them the hit. I hope no one else does either.
And I’m glad your mom is home and doing well!
God love ya sweetie, you tried.
So glad your mom is home and going so much better! I hope she continues to improve.
How are you recovering, Robyn?
I’m doing ok Cecily – following dr orders :-)
I wish somebody could delete negative and destructive comments to your blog – besides you!
I just tried to leave a positive comment on that post on Babble and it told me it was a “duplicate copy,” which of course it isn’t. Fishy. Just thought you should know.
I just commented on your babble post. I am so sad that such behaviour is in existence, let alone to the level of harassing clients. There are laws in place regarding slander that their actions would be skating fairly close to.
How terrible for you and your family. I wish I knew what to do to help.
After following you and your life for years, I just deleted you from my google reader. I stopped following you on twitter soon after your Mom came to live with you. I could not read you complain about her so much.
Even if you learn nothing from GOMI, just learn this one thing. To not talk about your mother negatively online. Your audience has a memory. Even if you change your mind and write a few nice words about her, we won’t forget your dozens of tweets every time you watch tv together. Don’t complain that you don’t have a babysitter when she’s in the hospital getting treated. Have some respect for that women.
Long time reader here. Not a lawyer but how is this not slander? Seems when they target clients it moves to a new level. I am glad advertising was pulled….but what amazes me is how there are people who put so much energy into Hate. That I do not understand. Good luck with all of it.
Best wishes to you Cecily, I hope your clients see that this small group of loud individuals are a bunch of selfish losers with too much time on their hands.
First of all, THRILLED about your Mom’s progress. Absolutely thrilled. Bless all of you for what you have gone through. Thank God she has you, Cec. I mean that.
Second of all, what the hell is wrong with people? In all the years I’ve read you and heard you mention trolls & just general assholery (not a word, I know), I’ve always felt superficially/momentarily bad for you (being totally honest here) and at the same time have flippantly assumed you could just flick these parasites off like the boogers that they are making themselves out to be after the initial sting but now they’re messing with your livelihood? And talking about your kid? And name calling? That is NOT OK. I can’t imagine anyone justifying that type of behavior in any way that would make it OK. Ugh. Hate it for you, honey.
Stay strong! You are better than all of this.
Delighted your mom is home. Wonderful news and again, hope all goes smoothly.
You know, I can kind of understand the kinds of, erm, harsh comments that sometimes get left on blogs, or that message boards can devolve into. I so cannot understand GOMI. I saw another blogger posting about the commercial failure of GOMI (not the donations, that probably hadn’t happened at the time she wrote her post), and I though immediately of you and was pleased/relieved. Such weird behavior (participating in that sort of site).
But, again, to end on a happy note, it’s great to know your mom is doing so well, what a relief.
It amazes me that people spend so much effort teaching their children not to sext, or gamble online, or view pornography but they can’t teach themselves to just ignore what they don’t like reading. Weird. Even i figured out how to set my internet filter so that sites which offend me don’t pop into view.
I’m so sorry these trolls have started up again. Is what they are saying not libel? And does your client/s not have lawyers to take them on?
I haven’t read Babble as I can’t access it for some reason.
I’m so pleased about your mom; and understand TOTALLY your relationship. I can’t cope with my own mom, so I understand letting off steam. I’d be a wole lot worse I can assure you.
Xxxxxx
So happy for you and your mom. I try to be a positive person but it seems outcomes are often so bad…it’s refreshing to see something turn around in such a great way!
I’m glad your mother is home. I hope that you take good care of her and not focus on silly internet drama. Remember, you are not thirteen years old. You can turn off the computer, put on your big-girl panties, and take care of your life!
Wow Cecily, I am really sorry you are bring bullied like this, I had no idea. It must be really tough for you. I wish I had a magic wand to make it all better. Being bullied is traumatic. I hope they lose interest in you soon.
Cecily – I just caught up on the GOMI situation after reading Porcupine. What a great connection btwn Bubba’s experience and yours. And I think your prayers for the hateful ones are a brilliant idea. Win-win.
I was stalked on FB a few years ago, by a bunch of young women who had the hots for my sister. Not kidding. They created fake FB pages and paased around my cell number. They grabbed photos off my FB profile and wrote stories about me and my family on livejournal pages. I ended up going incognito on FB and making sure that my kids’ names are never published on the web. Ever. Schools ask every year for my permission to put their names in publicity items or news stories and I always say no. Even tho the stalkers disappeared years ago, there are some real crazies out there. I don’t think you can put that genie back in the bottle re:Tori but it might be something to think about, especially keeping the name of her school off your blog.
One last thought – does anyone know if the owner of GOMI is on the other side of the choice discussion? That is the one thing that I guess would energize such a long-standing attack of your credibility and income.
SO glad to hear that your mom is home and improving.
And really dismayed that there are so many people who have nothing better to do than smear someone’s reputation in such vile ways.
That’s great news about your mom! I hope she continues to do well and is able to be independent again. I bet it would be very good for her. A co-worker is going through a similar situation as you except her mother is not ill. Her mother, her father, and her aunt live in her home as well as her two daughters. There are days my co-worker looks like she’s on the brink of a breakdown. It’s very hard.
As for everything else… well if you don’t have anything else don’t say anything at all is what I was taught.
Wow what a mental fart on that last one
As for everything else… well if you don’t have anything nice to say don’t say anything at all is what I was taught.
I’ve been looking at numbers all day. Back to work I go!
I have read your blog for several years and I have to say that I often disagree with your political leanings and opinions. I still think, however, that there is absolutely no justification for anyone to make any negative comments or criticisms of your daughter, no matter what you say or do on the internet. Attacking a child in any form is wrong and…well, it’s just WRONG.
I will also say that I think you’re being blamed for your honesty about the situation with your mother quite unfairly. Like it or not, dealing with our parents as they age is difficult and can lead to some decisions none of us would ever like to make. But you are more than just her daughter…you are a wife, a mother, a woman with a career, and you have to balance all of your roles. It’s unrealistic for people to expect butterflies and chirping chickadees when we go through these kinds of things in life. Not wanting your mother in your home (if that was ever the case, and I’m not saying it was) is not akin to not caring about her or not loving her. People who say otherwise have never been faced with such difficult decisions.
So happy to hear about your mom! I’ve been following your updates via FB, that is some great progress she’s having. And so sorry about the crap you’re going through work wise, chin up dear, tomorrow is another day. :)